While you're getting little pink candies and pretty cards, silly texts, and funny emojis from friends and family this Valentine's Day, take a few minutes to have a
heart to heart talk with yourself!  By this I mean ask yourself these questions and really think about your answers.  (You might even want to write them down.)

            1)  WHY are you playing softball?
            2)  WHY do you want to play softball in COLLEGE?

If you are satisfied with your answers to questions 1 and 2, then follow your heart and act accordingly.  If you don't enjoy softball or don't want to play in college, have a frank talk with Mom and Dad. Thank them for their support and time and money throughout your travel ball career, but also tell them you are pretty sure you want your softball career to end with high school other words, you want a college experience that does not include playing softball.  (This may be a tough conversation, but you'll feel better afterwards, I promise.)

If you do love softball and you do want to play in college, then ask yourself this:  How willing am I to work my butt off to make this happen? and What am I doing to ensure that it does?

If you don't have the answers to these questions and/or you need some guidance or support, feel free to email me. I'm here to help! Happy Valentine's Day!

2-1-18       HEADS UP, JUNIORS!
For juniors, spring is the time to fish or cut bait.  While it's not impossible to get recruited if you don't start until summer or even fall, it definitely makes it harder.  YOU the player need to be in charge of the process.  Spring of the junior year is when I start to see which young ladies want to play in college because they love softball and which girls really aren't that keen on playing. 

The is the time when reality starts to hit home.  You may realize that the start of your college life is about 18 months away.  If you want to play softball in college, it's going to mean making sacrifices and choices. Some of you may decide that you really don't want to make those choices or those sacrifices.  That's okay.  The college search is meant to be journey of discovery.  But for those of you who still believe you will have the best college experience ever if it includes softball, it’s time to "man up." (Or is that "woman up?")  You need to identify colleges you want to write and get those packets into the (snail) mail. If you do these things, you'll go into your summer travel ball games relaxed and ready, knowing that you have done your best to keep your college search moving towards a successful and happy conclusion.

On a final note…college coaches recruit differently.  While some D-I programs may be done identifying their top 2019 prospects, there are still D-I coaches who are looking.  And the vast majority of Div. II, III and NAIA coaches are just getting started. In fact, many D-III coaches will not do much recruiting until this summer or even next fall.  THIS IS NORMAL.  THIS IS HOW IT WORKS!  If you have questions, email or call me.  I can provide help and guidance!


If the winter weather is keeping you off the softball field, put this indoor time to good use. Remember, there are more would be
college ball players who don’t find teams to recruit them than there are those who do. Be a savvy shopper.  Don’t believe
everything you hear--particularly from coaches who promise to “get you recruited” simply by showing up at a big summer or
fall tournament--and don’t assume that every parent who says, “Oh, my daughter just went there and got seen and was offered a big scholarship,” is telling it like it really is.

Sure, things happen this way occasionally, but not nearly as often as parents and coaches would have you think. Take charge of
your own college search, educate yourself, learn what is fact and what is fiction, and be the one who makes it happen instead
of the one who sits by the phone and waits…and waits…and waits for a call that may never come!

P.S. If the proposed Div. I recruiting guideline changes do go into effect this year, it will be more important than ever that players don't leave recruiting up to chance!


If you are a senior, chances are you've either committed to a college, applied to schools and are waiting on your acceptance notices and financial aid, or perhaps you've even decided not to play softball after high school. The senior year is the time when reality "gets real."  If you're still looking for a college to recruit you, it's not an impossible goal.  But it won't be easy.  If you'd like some suggestions on how to go about finding coaches who might still be interested in a player like you, send me an email. I may be able to help.

If you're an uncommitted junior, this spring is a very critical time in your college search.  There's a lot you need to be doing (if you haven't done it already), and you'll want to go into the summer travel season ready for active recruiting to begin.  If you are uncertain about your next steps, consult my book,
Preparing to Play Softball at the Collegiate Level, or send me an email. I'll be happy to point you in the right direction!

If you're a sophomore or freshman, your primary goal should be to make sure you're taking the required NCAA core courses and getting the best grades you can. If you're interested in getting your college search going, consult my book or my website for various things younger players can be doing to put themselves on coaches' radar.  Do be aware, however, that pending NCAA Div. I recruiting changes may affect how you go about your college search.  If passed this spring, these new guidelines will definitely change the way recruiting happens at the Div. I level.  For more information, please watch my website or email me!

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